Thursday, May 19, 2011

Baby Boomers and Infidelity

Men cheat for a single primary reason: sex. That's the explanation given by the website InfidelityFacts.com

Last week the baby boomer world was in shock when Arnold Schwarzenegger and Maria Shriver announced they had separated. This week we now know why. It was revealed Schwarzenegger fathered a child more than a decade ago with a woman on his household staff.

And let's not forget about baby boomers Elizabeth and former democratic presidential candidate John Edwards, who also called it quits when it was revealed he fathered a love child while his wife wss dealing with breast cancer.

So what is driving baby boomer men into the arms of someone else?

According to Infidelityfacts.com, some men cheat because of the sense that there has been a breakdown of fun or spontaneity in the relationship. For example, to men in long-term relationships sex will become routine or mechanical. Not an adventure as it once was, but simply as a means to an end. And so they seek that adventure, that adrenaline rush, with another woman (or women).

To get more InfidelityFacts, click here: Baby Boomer Infidelity

Friday, May 13, 2011

Reinvent Yourself at Midlife with a Divorce

Maria Shriver and former California Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger have become the latest casualties of baby boomer wedded bliss. After being married for 25 years, they have decided to call it quits.

Surprising? Maybe to some because the media always painted a picture of them as a couple who managed to stay happy in spite of their political and, perhaps, social differences.

The truth of the matter is, aging for women brings about more changes than just in the physical sense. Mentally, we go from being a starry-eyed young woman into a fully-bloomed flower, that is no longer content with remaining tight inside the bud. I was married for nearly 18 years before I had my wake up call.

With children grown and husbands paying less attention to our needs, the desire to breakout of that shell becomes even greater for some baby boomer women. The desire to live for yourself, instead of others, tugs at your heartstrings.

The truth of the matter is, not every marriage is God-ordained. Not every marriage has a happily ever after ending but, sadly, there are still wives everywhere hanging on to their marriage vows. Some choose to remain in bad situations because it's easier to stay and tolerate than to pack up and try to start all over again.

I say to hell with that! I would much rather reinvent myself at midlife with a divorce and give myself the opoortunity to travel on a new journey--than to be married and miserable until death do us part.

Here's another great article about baby boomers and divorce: Why are so many baby boomers divorced?