Don't hang out with them: It's one thing to sit with them at lunch and engage in harmless chit-chat or even go out after work every now and then for a drink, but it's an entirely different ballgame if you are choosing to socialize with them at their favorite hang-out on the weekends and challenging them to beer chugging contests. You may be considered the "cool boomer" but not much respect will be attached to it especially if they happen to capture a video of you passed out in a drunken stupor and post it on Snapchat, Instagram or Facebook.
I did not follow my own advice (LOL!) when I decided to take a road trip to Atlanta with three younger, former co-workers to celebrate the wedding of someone we all worked with. Surprisingly, I never hesitated when I knew who would be going because I always enjoyed being around them at work and, to be honest, I probably would not have gone on my own. Although we have stayed connected via social media, we hadn't seen each other in about two years so it was exciting to have a reunion of sorts.
When I tell you I had a great time, that would be an understatement. I had even MORE fun than I thought I would from start to finish! Here's what I learned about socializing with younger people:
You share more in common than you think: We all have a "back in the day" or "when I was growing up" story. Some of the experiences they shared were also my own as far as how our parents and guardians raised us. Even though I was 20-30 years older than them I could still relate to many of the things we talked about. Children---boyfriends---husbands---losing weight---jobs and people we don't like, etc. Life happens no matter how old you are. We all still have bills to pay and challenges to overcome.
I think one of the problems with older adults is they tend to frown upon the behavior and lifestyle of young folks while forgetting that they were also young once and sometimes had reckless behavior and did foolish things that they now secretly regret.
Respect is a two-way street: Some older adults automatically assume that just because they're "older" they should command respect. That's where they get it twisted. While I believe older adults shouldn't be disrespected, I do believe respect is earned based on your character. If you're over the age of 50 and every other word out of your mouth is a curse word or you show little regard for others around you, it is inconceivable to me that you would be deserving of anyone's adoration. "It's the way you carry yourself" is what the grown-ups used to say when I was a kid and the same holds true for young adults. They, too, must demonstrate their worthiness for respect. To be perfectly honest, I wouldn't have gone on the trip had I not had a level of respect for ALL of them.
You can still act your age and share your wisdom: The beauty of aging is young people get a chance to see and hear what their lives may be like as they grow older. My life is nowhere near perfect but I have been blessed to have a career, a home, a wonderful husband, daughter and grandchild. I've also known what it's like to have been fired from more than one job, be unemployed for a period of time and to struggle spiritually and mentally from time to time. These are stories to share because they make us real and transparent. Two of the best conversations we had during the trip was about our walk with Christ and what it means when little boys see adults around them show genuine affection for each other.
On the other hand....I did catch myself acting my age just a little too much this past weekend! I was constantly complaining about my hip and back pain and how far I had to walk to use the bathroom at the rest stop. In that regard, aging is no joke. LOL! I fizzled out after the wedding reception so going to the after party AFTER the reception was out of the question.
Music makes the world go round: Thanks to SiriusXM radio, we all got a good sampling of music dating back to the 70's during the trip. Although I've never been a fan of hip-hop, I actually forgot many of the songs I actually did like when my daughter was a teenager so we all took a trip down memory lane listening to Dance with Me, Gangsta's Paradise, "Return of the Mack", and "Walk it Out"
You can learn new things: I was so excited to learn that my former co-worker (like a daughter to me) was getting married but I had never been to a Gay wedding before so I didn't know what to expect. Keeping it real, I believe I would've been a lot more uncomfortable had I not gone with my millennial and GenX travel mates or I probably wouldn't have gone at all. They helped me overcome any inhibitions I may have felt. That's another difference between the younger and older generations. Some of us get "stuck" in our ways and are less receptive to the differences in others while young people are more likely to accept you at face value. I'm still a work in progress.
The other new thing I learned was: FIREBALL!
A study conducted by Harvard University some years ago indicated that older people who had active social lives were happier, healthier and more likely to live longer. I'm not saying you need to hang out with young people every weekend but socializing with them on occasion can be a win-win for everyone.
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